New Year - New Me?
- Day Bint
- Jan 11, 2021
- 2 min read
Did you know that most people’s New Year’s Resolutions are simply previous unachieved goals re-labelled and re-set purely because the human brain loves an easy entry point?
* Jan 1st = New Year, New Me
* 1st of the month = New Month, New Focus
* Mondays = New Week, New Start
If your New Year’s goal involves a ’New You’, pause for a moment and think of what you are saying to yourself.
Whilst it may sound minor, saying ’New Me’ indicates to your mind that you need something ‘New’ in order to achieve happiness, self-worth or self-acceptance.
* Losing weight will make the NEW me happier and more confident.
* Getting more chiselled will make the NEW me more attractive to other people.
Thinking you need to be NEW in order achieve the emotions associated with your goals suggests that you can’t be these if you don’t achieve them. We already know that most people give up on their New Year’s goals and if you have tried and not succeeded before, how did you feel knowing that the New Year didn’t bring in a NEW you, but instead left you with the OLD one?
You are awesome now and you will continue to have awesome traits for the rest of your life. You just need to focus on these when you are struggling with specific habits.
Locking our future happiness into a NEW you often means not seeing what traits we currently have that already make us happy.
Sure, you may wish to evolve some of your daily habits but these don’t define the whole of you. Accepting that most parts of you are amazing and just a few parts may want a slight upgrade takes a huge amount of pressure to succeed from your shoulders.
In fact, self acceptance has been shown to lead to far greater adherence towards goals than self pressure or self-judgement ever do. Nothing feels worse than feeling like a failure and building a few New Year’s habits into something that defines the whole of you is likely to lead to more feelings of low self-worth than increased feelings of confidence.
So by all means use the New Year to improve some daily habits but don’t forget, you don’t need to be a new person to be happy or have self-worth.
Most of you is already there!
Click below to see a brief video to help you set perspective when embarking on a New You:
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